SKLC is…

Kate Wright, Zeta Phi, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey
Kate Wright, Zeta Phi, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey

Hello friends,

When I was a collegian I was obsessed with one of our preference speeches, Sigma Kappa is. I loved the story it told about all the things Sigma Kappa can mean in a young woman’s life; it is the perfect representation of what sisterhood looks like in the day to day. Life as a LC is making our sisterhood your entire life and so what I would like to leave you with in my last post is what being a Leadership Consultant for Sigma Kappa is…

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  • SKLC is taking so many personality tests, doing so many team builders, eating Blaze pizza and Brics ice cream as you spend a few summer weeks in the basement of NHQ making lifelong friends.
  • SKLC is stressing for days about packing two suitcases you will live out of for the next 4 months.
  • SKLC is saying “Hey there. Have you heard about Sigma Kappa?” thousands of times. No really, thousands. It’s hundreds of coffee dates, and many late nights to create the seven amazing new chapters we have. It’s looking back on all of that and feeling so incredibly blessed to have had the opportunity to change women’s lives by introducing them to Sigma Kappa.
  • SKLC is meeting collegians that make you think “Thank god I am a Sigma Kappa because I have the privilege of being this woman’s sister”.
  • SKLC is 23 states (and a territory) in less than a year.
  • SKLC is moving to a new place and living alone for the first time in your life.
  • SKLC is meeting and spending time with alumnae who show you the kind of woman you want to be when you grow up.
  • SKLC is watching women who inspire, challenge and amaze you learn our traditions and our secrets. It’s crying when they are installed as a chapter. It’s watching them grow in our sisterhood and knowing that though what they’ve already accomplished is incredible, there is so much left in store.
  • SKLC is watching women you love go through some really tough things, and being in awe of their grace as they do.
  • SKLC is so many face time calls. It is your very best friends. It is squad goals.
  • SKLC is sobbing as you write this post, because you realize that this journey is soon coming to an end.
  • SKLC is the most challenging, most rewarding, most amazing year of your life.

Thank you for coming along on this journey with me. Thank you for reading my posts. Thank you for an incredible year.

— Kate

Good for you, not for me.

Kate Wright, Zeta Phi, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey
Kate Wright, Zeta Phi, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey

Hello there!

If you’ve been reading my blog posts from the beginning, you’ll remember that Leslie Knope (Heroine of Parks & Rec) is my spirit animal. Now not only do I love Leslie, but I love the woman who plays her, Amy Poehler. In reading Amy Poehler’s book, Yes Please, I found a passage that I identify with to my core, but we’ll get to that in a minute.

Let’s start here… I was recently discussing with some awesome Sigma Kappa new members the difference challenges we face as collegiate women in compared to the challenges that our founders (Shout out to the new Promise for New Members program for facilitating this conversation). They overwhelmingly agreed that the biggest challenge facing young women is not that we are excluded by men or by societal norms in the way our founders were, but instead that we exclude one another. We, as women, are our own biggest roadblock to success.

From a young age, we have been socialized to be critical of one another constantly. We judge each other on interests, fashion choices and even Instagram captions. The things I have heard people say… AWFUL. The things I, myself, have said… AWFUL.

It is so easy not to agree with people’s choices and then to make a witty remark about it. We have been doing it since we thought purple over pink was the superior favorite color choice. But, I am challenging myself, and I am challenging you to stop doing that. Stop being so judgmental. Stop being so critical of other women.

How though? How do we stop doing something that has been ingrained in us since kindergarten? Well that’s where Amy Poehler comes in. In her book, I learned the simplest and most beautiful statement to stop the judgement almost before it happens. Good for you, not for me. 

  • Used 17 hashtags in your Instagram caption? Good for you, not for me. 
  • Died your hair your favorite pastel color? Good for you, not for me. 
  • Joined a sorority of which I am not a member? Good for you, not for me

 

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The phrase will work in almost any scenario. Doing something immoral or inconsistent with our organization’s values – Not good for you, or for anyone. Honestly though, 99.9% of our judgement is on the little things, the things that could be addressed by this statement. I hope you put this phrase in your toolbox, because even if we all made one less critical remark a week, the world would be a better place.

“Good for you, not for me” – Amy Poehler

— Kate

 

Motivational Tucker

Kate Wright, Zeta Phi, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey
Kate Wright, Zeta Phi, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey

Hello friends,

If I learned anything from college it is that you need three things to survive finals with your sanity in tact: coffee, cute animals and motivational quotes. Unfortunately, I can’t be each of your personal baristas for the next few weeks. I can, however,  provide you with the other two essentials  to entertain and inspire you as you sip lattes with two extra shots of espresso. Here are five of my favorite motivational phrases paired with the prettiest pup you’ll ever see, my yellow lab, Tucker.

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Best of luck on your exams, it is so worth it in the end.

“A good quote is a beautiful bird! Wherever you meet with it, you will start flying with it!” ― Mehmet Murat ildan

— Kate

Get Politically Involved!

Kate Wright, Zeta Phi, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey
Kate Wright, Zeta Phi, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey

Hello friends,

If you haven’t been living under a rock for the last year, you probably realize that we are in an election season like no other. Every election year brings about new complexities and opportunities for the candidates but this year is uniquely insane.

I sincerely hope this goes without saying but you should register to vote and then you should vote. You should vote because it is your right and privilege as an American citizen. This right was fought for, lives were lost for it and you should honor those people by exercising this right. Now that I have potentially “guilted” you into voting, let me share some resources of how you can become an informed voter.

  • ISideWith.com
    • This site allows you to take a quiz about your political beliefs to find the best candidate for you. It doesn’t just ask you the questions though, it asks you how important that issue is to you in order to calculate how much it should affect your affiliation.
    • I’ve spoken to many people who were surprised by their result, I can say from experience my top two candidates are from different sides of the aisle. I don’t think you should take this quiz and then go right out and cast your vote for your number one, but it does allow you to really stop and think about the issues and whether that’s something you should be considering in this election.
  • Vote Smart
    • This site collects information about positions, and more importantly votes from not only the presidential candidates but state and local candidates as well. This allows voters to check whether past votes align with a candidates published position.
  • Digestible News Sites
    • We as a society have really moved past the idea of sitting down and reading the paper each morning, we don’t even really sit and watch the news on television anymore. Luckily, as a result of this change there are some great news sources who are putting out what I call digestible news. I think it goes without saying that to be an informed voter, you should probably be informed on what’s going on in the world.
      • theSkimm
        • The Skimm is a sassy and sarcastic morning email that takes you through the big stories of the previous day and what is going on overall. The Skimm is doing a series on the presidential candidates that gave us a peak into their personalities as well as their positions.
      • The Brief by Time Magazine
        • Time will send you an email each day with current events which is organized as the 12 things you need to know now.
    • Both of these are subscription based and you can sign up by follow the links. I will say that as with any source, they have their biases so I would recommend reading these in addition to other diverse sources to collect information to inform your opinions.

I sincerely hope that these resources will help you begin to make your way on to the political scene, and maybe one day we’ll elect a Sigma Kappa president!

 

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“Nobody will ever deprive the American people of the right to vote except the American people themselves and the only way they could do this is by not voting.” – President Franklin D. Roosevelt

— Kate

 

Essential Reads

Kate Wright, Zeta Phi, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey
Kate Wright, Zeta Phi, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey

Hello friends,

I love love love to read. I believe the best way to spend a day is sitting by a bright window engrossed in a book. I do not discriminate on genre or even fiction versus nonfiction. I want to share with you a couple of books that have really changed the way I view life.

Ron Clark’s The Essential 55

This book came out in 2003 and believe it or not that’s close to when I first read it (I have read it many times since). The book is written by an award winning educator about the 55 rules he and his elementary students lived by in the classroom as told through anecdotes and stories. It might look odd because it is definitely marketed to teachers but the lessons are really applicable to life.

Glennon Doyle Melton’s Carry On, Warrior: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life

This one may sound familiar because Glennon is a Sigma Kappa from our Delta Rho Chapter at James Madison University and she spoke at national convention in 2014. The only way I can describe this book is that when you read it you think “Oh my god, someone gets me” (#mysticbond). Glennon has done amazing things with her life and she’s very open about her experiences both good and bad. Not everything in the book will apply to everyone simply based on what life experiences you may have had (I am not married nor am I a mother), but the feelings will resonate. It reads like an eloquent description of your inner most thoughts.

Malcolm Gladwell’s Outliers: The Story of Success

In this book, Gladwell explores through essays what makes people exceptional. A lot of his work is rooted in academic theory and so the nerd in you will rejoice at each of these unique and detailed stories. Simply put this book is exceptionally interesting and will have you contemplating its lessons for years to come.

Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice

I am sure you recognize this one, and probably already know the story line well; I won’t bore you with a summary. I include it in this list to say I believe it’s essential to read Jane Austen at least once a year and if you’re going to start anywhere, start with Pride and Prejudice (no, watching any of the film versions doesn’t count). You can find classics like this for free in ebook form, but I’d recommend owning a paper book copy so you can see the wear of many reads.

“A reader lives a thousand lives before he dies. The man who never reads lives only one”. – George R.R. Martin

–Kate

 

 

 

Creating a Sanctuary in your Bedroom

Kate Wright, Zeta Phi, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey
Kate Wright, Zeta Phi, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey

Hello friends,

After a fall full of travel (22 states in six months!), I am settling down for the semester in Washington, D.C. With the hustle and bustle of our nation’s capital right outside my door, I tried to make my apartment a haven. Today I’m sharing with you my bedroom and my list of must-haves to create a sanctuary to retreat to after a hectic day.

  1. Comfortable and cute bedding. I got this Ralph Lauren set from Marshalls!Bedding
  2. Photos of your family and friends. This is me and my mom at my college graduation and you may recognize LCs Dana & Annie!Frames
  3. A gallery wall with art you love. Two of my frames include art I found in my hometown in California and two are photos I took last year. Of course my adorable pup, Tucker. All of these frames were recycled and all together cost less than ten dollars.

     

  4. Possibly most importantly, some amazing aromatherapy. My room is full of candles but when I don’t feel like lighting them I spray this room mist all over.Room Mist

 

“The magic thing about home is that it feels good to leave, and it feels even better to come back.” – Wendy Wunder

 

— Kate

Thank you Sigma Kappa

Thank you Sigma Kappa
Kate Wright, Zeta Phi, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey
Kate Wright, Zeta Phi, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey

Hello friends,

November holds many important dates, most notably, Founders’ Day and Thanksgiving. It seems like an appropriate time to give thanks to Sigma Kappa, to Mary, Ida, Louise, Francis, Elizabeth and all the sisters who came before me to create the most incredible organization I will ever be a part of.

Thank you for giving me ritual that encourages me to become my best self every day.

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Thank you for having only two Greek letters. That one less letter may not seem like a lot but imagine the difference between going to bed at 3 AM or painting a third letter.

Thank you for instilling in me a spirit of service and for giving me causes to care about so deeply.

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Thank you for my big sister, she has taught me that work should not come at the expense of happiness.

Thank you for my little sister, she encourages me to always be bettering myself if only to keep up with her greatness.

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Thank you for the lavender and maroon, they are colors a red head can rock.

Thank you for my best friends, I would not have made it through college or life without them. They remind me to be silly, they encourage me to be adventurous, they share a gold heart with me on Snapchat, and they are always the greatest support system I could ever hope for.sbinsd

Thank you for the opportunities for development, especially this year on the road. I would not be the woman I am or possess the skills that I do if not for Sigma Kappa.

Thank you for all the best apparel because what would I be wearing this very moment if not for Sigma Kappa?

Thank you for giving me the most amazing home to spend my college years in. 10914260_1606694476283643_891951573_n

Thank you for our alumnae, headquarters staff and volunteers because they remind me that there is always more to give Sigma Kappa in return for all it gave me.

Finally, thank you for my LC team. They have shown me that there are other people in this world as head over heels for Sigma Kappa as I am. They are brilliant. They are hilarious. They are the most amazing women I know.

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“In every generation of our lives, the fraternity sorority experience matters.” – Pete Smithhisler

–Kate